Some Thoughts About Travelling

We grow up with the idea of “I want to travel for work because I can make money and see many places around” no one tells you how stressful is it travelling for work… travel should be only for pleasure.

After more or less 8 years with a lifestyle where taking a flight sounds like taking a bus, sleeping in different hotels every day it is just normal, eating in restaurants of any type, washing clothes at the laundry service, meeting frends in every locations in the World, never could commit any long term plan, running to catch cabs, trains, airplanes it is just daily stuff because time is precious, your common language is english and even when you land in your home town you can’t really realize your feet are on the ground and your parents can’t understand what are you talking about.

The reality is that during these years, we are just wasting our energy and time, travelling can open your mind, because you see different things, but in the same time, you lose the contact with your friends, your family, your passion… you don’t have time to dedicate to yourself, to build a life, to build some stable relationships…

You come back from your trips and you realize your friends are already away with their plans, your parents’ changed from black to white and they are busy planning their retirement, your brother is always away for his job, you don’t have any one waiting for you, not even a dog or cat or a domestic fish. You don’t have any hobbies, no gym membership, no idea of what are planned at the cinema, no idea of any thing you can do, if it not sleeping and resting, getting ready for the next trip.

When you finally decide to stop it! Are we still on time to rebuild our lost important things? 

Yes, sometimes… and the process is painful and takes so long.

You never can really stop your dynamic flying life, you will miss the time you were taking a beer in HK with a friend and the day after you are in Shanghai for a morning meeting and then leave for somewhere else… if you stay in one place too long you will feel missing a ingredient in your life, so you will plan some week ends out in some capital cities nearby.

Rebuild the lost connections with the local friends is difficult, they normally are local and you already changed to be an international citizen, with different points of view of everything.

Some very good friends are married, with kids and busy…

You can try to know some new friends, and then it is difficult to ignore you were having so many fun with your friend in HK, Singapore, KL, NY, Tokyo, London, Paris, ect… the experience is so much different and sometime you happen to questioning if “am I normal?” 

You try to date some guys in your home town, the ones that you remember at your teen age were so cool, now probably they are so boring and idiot and some times really nothing to talk with.

You happen to fall in love with people that are doing your same previous lifestyle, but you realize they can never plan any thing with you and you need stability…

Your parents look like very worried for you, but they don’t know what to do to help you, they only know you are lost with some problems that at their generation were not existing.

It is frustrating! And this is the beginning…

Not sure this is the right decision, as long as it’s worth to try… this is a psicological shock and in some way we need to over pass.

Some deep thought from my last long sickness (5 days in the bed, without meeting any one and without putting out my feet from my home), our body sometimes needs rest, need to lay down and do nothing, your home is so warm, with the lovely voices of your parents at the kitchen working with the only objectives to feed you until you can’t eat any more, they don’t know  how to solve your frustration, but they love you and this is so comforting. Some times you need nothing to be happy, you only need simplicity and to reset your mind for a bit. 

Switch off!

I think there are process for every moment in our life, can be tough or easy… important is to remember the reason why we did a certain choice and think deep what we really need, at the end… 

Jump in London Notting Hill for a breakfast

The very special thing you can do in Europe is to take the first low cost flight and fly over a new City for a day or just few hours and them back to your normality.

This week end I decided to fly to London with the purpose of a “Breakfast in Notting Hill” with my best friend that was there for business trip.

 

Is was one of best last minutes trip I’ve ever done. 

I missed so much the London saturday morning with the locals all around visiting the street market with all the old and antique items

We walked all around and found a nice place a english breakfast

There were music bands playing on ghe street, britsh accents every where.


It was a beautiful mid march day with beautiful weak sun, but still “sun” in London and that is not a little thing.

We found so many interesting mugs, ceramic tea cups, antique clocks, vintage bags and shoes

I realized how was relaxing and in a second all my life concerns disappeared.

 London still remain one of my favourite City, every time I walk through the Green Park I feel like been in a fairytale, every time I hang out with friends I’m in a modern metropolitan city with very cool night life, every time I want to do shopping you have so many choice, and the international food? I think you can find amazing chinese food or indian food or whatever you want to eat.

I have visited for an instant also my favourite area of the city, Mount Street in My Fair. 


A very non turistic area, where you can find amazing Luxury stores and very rich costumers.

We had a great fruit salad in Deli Mount Street Store, my favourite place for a light lunch. I visited Marni, Celine, Balenciaga, Marc Jacobs, Goyard, Christian Louboutin stores.

I stayed for one night in a very local boutique hotel where I felt to be in a horror movie.

You can have all these experiences in few hours and then fly back regenerated.

Luxury, local, international, historical, cultural and whatelse?

Life is magic! We just need to craft it with our hands…

 

Continuing travelling


The picture above is Bologna, one of the City I’ve visited long time ago and only now I realized how it is beautiful.

Travelling in different cities or travelling in the same cities but in different mood and moment of your life can change a lot your experience.

As for me, every time I travel in one place I love it or I hate it due to the moment of my life.

I loved very much Paris the first time because I was with my loved one, after that all the other times I hated it, because I was going there for business

Tonight I’m leaving for London, I’ve decided to have a very short break in London a city that I’ve never get it enough.

I hope I can enjoy it.

This moment of my life is very special, near my flight seat there are two boys that were discussing about the thing that a successful person never say 100% what he/she knows.

This made me to think a lot… yes mysterious people are more attractive, because we are basically curious

But mysterious people also give you the impression that he/she knows things that you are interested and you want to learn… if you think, everyone in our lives, we’ve been attracted by our teacher, trainer, professor, our older school mate… this hunger of learning keeps you in a waiting mood, you are waiting to discover more, you are waiting to listen more, you are waiting to see him/her again to get your portions of knowledge.

Mystery is something intriguing that keep a person so looking forward to something…

Even in a relationship, if we keep a little of mystery and never give full answer you can basically keep the interest of your partner always active.

Anyway… too much is not good because it sounds like missing of honesty.

Human relationships are so complicated…

Already arrived in London, it is time to get out of the plane!

Hello London!

Qi is Chilling


I started this blog with the purpose to improve my written english, but I realized how much spare time I have to dedicate to it, actually very small.

I don’t remember a time in my life when I really had many spare time to use for my hobbies and artworks and wrotes…

One of my dream of teenage was to become a writer or journalist, I did some journalism when I was at the University, but nothing smoothly continued, it was too hard for me to survive with articles.
One of thing I never thought I could do was “travelling a lot”, I was a little chinese girl with a document that permits more or less 50 free-visa countries in areas of the World that are siriously interesting, but so unsafe! I’ve never thought I could one day, change my passport and start a life (work and leisure) of travelling so intensively.

My first job was in Shanghai and then I’ve been promoted and then my work/travelling life started with no intention to stop. Even during my days off I can’t really stay in the earth, but I’m always on a plane or in a hotel or taking a train to somewhere… or diving in some amazing ocean…

This is the modernity? Maybe, all I know is that it is already normality for me.

I realized how much I travel, when last month I applied for a multi-entry visa for China and the Visa Center asked me to fill a paper with all the Countries and how many days I stayed in last 2 years… I started to clean my mind trying to remember all my travels, I was counting on my hands the name of the places and how many time I’ve been there… I realized I needed to write down looking at my phone agenda, in 2015 I’ve been twice in London and twice in Paris every month, I’ve been travelling non stop during summer in Asia Pacific, I’ve been in China and Japan and HK several time and NYC and many other European Countries… 

I ended up filling 2 full pages… the Visa Center operator called me “ι£žδΊΊβ€ is Chinese means “flying person”. Yeah I used to achieve 80+ flights per year and nowadays are much more better, I changed job last year and now luckly I travel 50% less than before…

So I can dedicate more time to my personal leisure travels, still continuosly in my life.

The first flight of 2017 was a direct flight to Warsaw and then in Krakow, it was an unexpected trip, but it was so nice! -18 degrees of temperature didn’t stop me to go around, visiting historical places and having great food and meeting amazing people.

Here below few pictures from my trip.

Yes Qi is Chilling! 

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Closing of a Chapter

Life is surprising all the time, we were thinking about to sell our family restaurant in Milan by end of 2016 and suddenly now we did it!

We opened it in 1999 and it is exactly 17 years from the first time we moved in this tiny little restaurant.

I was a teenager and I pro-actively supported my parents in opening it, we renewed it, we designed the style, we ordered the carpet, we operationally did everything. 

During these 17 years, my bother grown up, I finished my studies and moved out, I visited half of the World… but one my very proud thing was my restaurant, I was travelling around the World and still promoting my family business… the restaurant was my home, my living room where I can host my friends and visitors.

During these 17 years many things changed, but my restaurant was always there with my parents and my brother… 

It is a strange feeling, suddenly you don’t have anymore your roots..

This is the last picture I took in the bar area of the restaurant.


I’m a little bit sad.

The changes came so quickly as my parents were so tired to manage the operation of the restaurant and my brother needs to explore his own life.

My parents are retired in one evening, the change is difficult to digest for them, beeing super busy people and suddenly become super bored old people. 

Many questions come in my mind, what should I do now for them?

The shock must be difficult, you have been busy entire life and now you have nothing to do… my Mum desparately asked me to do a baby for her to take care… my father is walking all the time around the house trying to find something to repair… they are all the time waiting to cook something to eat.

My brother will start a new job very soon and I’m currently living in Venice, we are basically both very independent.

I think this is a step in our life that we need to face, when the parents retire suddenly… of course we are not common chinese family, both myself and brother arr still single without kids and not sure we will ever have our own family, we are really unconventional, we like freedom and we like travel, we only want to have a lot of experiences in our life.

I hope my Mum and Dad can find their own way to fill their retirement.

Yeah a very important chapter closed in our life and now a new one opened! Ideas for future? >.<

Venice

 Here I am! In Venice… People says My mobility is a quick concept, I can be anywhere in any moment. Yes that’s correct!

My last few years I changed 2 continents and 3 cities, because I feel as I’m following my heart. And so, here I am in this wonderful city, the opportunity came out suddenly at the end of last year, as I was struggling for a terrible workload in my previous Company and then the destiny decided for me to be approached by a Head Hunting company that offered me a new life in Venice. I’ve never thought I could move to Venice, it was my dream location for University but I could never did it because my family was in Milan and there were no enough money to support the University in a City like Venice the dream turistic location for everyone in the World. 

Yes, it sounds strange, but every thing is coming up linked in many connection points, I realized that every thing in our life is possible if you just have the courage to think about it.

Be realistic and set standard, be courage and be positive! Yeah these are the few values in my professional life that really guided me.

I’ve be appointed Talent Acquisition Manager for a Asian based company that has the mother company in Europe and is starting up the first business in Europe and they choosed Venice. Sounds the perfect combination for me, Qiyan!

Whatelse? Nothing more! I’m in Venice already 1 months and something and I found easily a lovely apartment, the office building is amazing, the colleagues are lovely and I’m already involved in many activities.

Venice is magic, is amazing! The history, the culture, the art, the magic atmosphere, this is most amazing experience I could never imagine for myself.

I post some pictures just to share what I see by daily basis…

Venice is the perfect place for a quite and lovely life, in here you have inspiration for everything, you can catch the beauty of life by walking around the city in the little canals and be lost during the night.

The music of the night is composed by the lovely notes of the water and the weak and few lights permit us to see stars and big moon. The city is incredebly safe in any moment. No cars, no traffic, no stress, only a lot of inspiration and peaceful feeling.

I can’t ask for more at the moment!

The travel of my life continues…